What makes people fearful is not just their amygdala and past trauma; it is also living in environments – families, communities, media ecosystems, that repeatedly tell them “you are not safe, you are not enough, and danger is everywhere.”
Welcome to Training the Ego. This is your simple guide to understanding and becoming the person you want to be – your true self. I’ve tried to make it simple, so that anyone can read and understand it, yet the concepts here are incredibly powerful. And if used correctly, can lead an individual to true self-transcendence, where they have complete mastery of self in all its guises.
Authenticity, I suggest, is a continuum, a spectrum of stages, that may never end, since the self is a largely unknown thing, and that exploration of self, if done with regular determination, is always going to be revealing “new stuff”.
The dual-mask system, part of the Theory of the DNA-Self could also explain the concept of life positions, as described in transactional analysis.
Almost all children suffer a sustained and often targeted string of traumatic micro, and macro-aggressions, from the moment they are born.
Our Theory of DNA-Self, includes the concept that, due to a small child’s ability to forget upsetting or uncomfortable moments, adults may well find that they actually have two masks. One will be hidden, and highly automated.
The DNA-Self theory proposes that each new-born enters the world with a pre-populated schema network, this is a complete developmental blueprint encoded in genetic material, shaped by prenatal environment, containing latent traits, skills, and associated needs awaiting activation through exploration.
This article looks into the basic family relationship, as driven by our genetic need for connection, support, nurturing and protection. We then propose a typical dysfunctional scenario, based on parents that are avoidant of that connection. It proposes that this scenario will result in children that will include a scapegoat, who may well develop C-PTSD based Stockholm Syndrome, before they are old enough to verbalise their long-term abuse. It also introduces a new term – Puppy-dog Syndrome, to describe one of the observable behaviours of children that have had this childhood.
