Training the Ego: Starting to Care for Yourself

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Lesson Nine

How to Start Caring for Yourself

Caring for yourself, is about learning to help yourself feel comfortable in your own skin, and keeping your body healthy and safe. Here are some suggestions of things you might try.

Sit quietly each day for five minutes and ask, “What do I need right now?” It might be a warm drink, a walk, or deep breaths of fresh air.
Replace harsh thoughts like “I’m no good” with kinder words like “I’m doing my best.” Say these out loud.
Touch yourself gently, like a hug or rubbing your arms softly. This shows care to your body.
Honour your limits. Say “no” when things feel too much, without guilt.
Celebrate small wins, like eating a healthy meal or resting.

Doing these daily helps your bond with yourself grow strong.

Signs Your Mind Approves

Your true self will show signs it feels cared for. You may have more energy, fewer aches, and a calm heart. Sleep gets better, worries fade faster, and simple things bring joy.

Other signs are feeling lighter, making decisions easier, feeling warm toward others, and recovering quickly from hard times.

What harmony with Yourself Looks Like

When you are in harmony, life flows smoothly. You wake fresh, face challenges calmly, and smile freely. Your body is relaxed, and your mind is clear. You enjoy time alone, speak honestly, and help others from a place of strength.

Harmony grows with steady care, turning normal days into happy ones.

Lesson Affirmation

I will teach my mind to value silence

Set an intention to start setting time aside, so that you and your mind can enjoy silence together.

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Building a Caring Relationship with Yourself

To build a caring relationship with yourself, start by treating your body and mind like a dear friend who needs your kindness every day. Speak to yourself gently, notice what feels good or bad, and make small promises like “Today, I’ll rest when I’m tired” – then keep them. This shows your inner self that you mean what you say and builds trust over time.

How to Get That Caring Relationship Going

Listen closely: Each day, sit quietly for five minutes and ask, “What do I need right now?” It might be a warm drink, a short walk, or just a deep breath. Write it down if it helps.

Be kind in words: Replace harsh thoughts like “I’m no good” with “I’m doing my best, and that’s enough.” Say it out loud in the mirror.

Touch with care: Give yourself a gentle hug or rub your arms softly. This tells your body, “I am here for you.”

Honour your limits: If something feels too much, say “no” without guilt. Like skipping a visit if you’re worn out.

Celebrate small wins: At day’s end, think of one good thing you did for yourself, like eating a healthy meal.

Practice these daily, and the bond grows stronger, much like nurturing a plant with water and sun.

Signs Your Inner Self Approves

Your inner self – that wise part deep inside – gives clear signals when it feels cared for. You might notice more energy, fewer aches, or a calm feeling in your chest. Sleep comes easier, and worries don’t stick as long. Food tastes better, and simple joys like birdsong bring a real smile.

Other good signs include:

Feeling lighter, like a weight has lifted.
Easier choices, without endless second-guessing.
Warmth towards others, because you’re not drained.
Quick bounce-back from upsets.

If these happen more often, your self is saying “Yes, keep going!”

What Harmony with Yourself Looks Like

A person in harmony moves through life with quiet ease, like a steady river. They wake rested, face the day without dread, and handle bumps without falling apart. Their face shows peace – soft eyes, relaxed shoulders – and they laugh freely at small things.

In daily life, harmony means: