Ego is a self-learning system

Training the Ego

Welcome to Training the Ego. This is your simple guide to understanding and becoming the person you want to be – your true self. I’ve tried to make it simple, so that anyone can read and understand it, yet the concepts here are incredibly powerful. And if used correctly, can lead an individual to true self-transcendence, where they have complete mastery of self in all its guises.

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Puppy-dog Syndrome and the Consequences of Avoidant Parents

This article looks into the basic family relationship, as driven by our genetic need for connection, support, nurturing and protection. We then propose a typical dysfunctional scenario, based on parents that are avoidant of that connection. It proposes that this scenario will result in children that will include a scapegoat, who may well develop C-PTSD based Stockholm Syndrome, before they are old enough to verbalise their long-term abuse. It also introduces a new term – Puppy-dog Syndrome, to describe one of the observable behaviours of children that have had this childhood.

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Incongruent coping

Incongruent coping; compliance, emotional disengagement, and passive “freezing”, is a trauma-driven survival strategy. Although safer in the short-term, it limits growth and contributes to distress unless recognized and transformed into more adaptive, congruent coping and incongruent coping styles.

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