Self-Values
What is the Key to Happiness?
Most of us have been taught, in the wrong way, to judge quickly and to look for what is wrong first – we have learned not to trust.
and Coping Work?
What is Grounding?
Grounding is about bringing your attention back to the here‑and‑now, especially when overwhelmed, anxious, or pulled into bad memories.
Self-Values
What is Self-Acceptance?
Self-acceptance is treating yourself as basically “okay as a person,” even when you see your flaws, mistakes, and limits.
What are Human Feelings?
What are Human Feelings?
Human feelings are the inner experiences that tell a person how life is going for them right now, like a built‑in signal system.
What are Human Relationships?
What are Human Relationships?
Ideal relationships are not flawless or conflict‑free. They are relationships where truth and care can coexist. Where you can be real, including imperfect, and still feel fundamentally respected, valued, and free to be yourself.
Showing Off
What is Showing Off?
Showing off is something many people do when they feel small inside, not big. It often comes from pain, not pride.
Core-Self Pruning
Microaggression and Microtrauma
In life, a constant stream of microaggressions – of disagreements, and being corrected, told to change our thinking or behaviour – tend to cause microtraumas, which, ultimately are micro-rejections of the individuals true self.
Organismic Self
Metacognitive Integration: The key to Self-Actualisation?
Metacognitive Integration is a dynamic process of exploration, identification, connection AND reconnection of the organismic self with it’s systemwide functions. It is a process that allows the individual to actualise themselves. This optimises the integration of their organism, to allow them to better thrive in the local environment.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
Puppy-dog Syndrome and the Consequences of Avoidant Parents
This article looks into the basic family relationship, as driven by our genetic need for connection, support, nurturing and protection. We then propose a typical dysfunctional scenario, based on parents that are avoidant of that connection. It proposes that this scenario will result in children that will include a scapegoat, who may well develop C-PTSD based Stockholm Syndrome, before they are old enough to verbalise their long-term abuse. It also introduces a new term – Puppy-dog Syndrome, to describe one of the observable behaviours of children that have had this childhood.
Adult Self-Transcendence Inventory
Window of Tolerance
The concept of the Window of Tolerance was introduced by Dan Siegel, a clinical professor of psychiatry. This idea describes the optimal zone of arousal where a person can effectively manage their emotions and respond to stress.